Sunday, 30 June 2013

The Road to Avalon Part 2 - Oh dear I managed to get there this time!

Last September I nearly went to Avalon in Darlington, but on the way there I just felt too damn old, so I ran away.  The story of that night can be found here

Unfortunately last night I managed to finally get in there.  As you know, I've moved to Darlington now, so it's a lot easier to go to places that are in the town.  Possibly where Avalon is concerned, this is not a good thing.

I went to Rob's house first, about 9 pm.  I walked there from my flat, which was novel.  I went for pre-drinks, and I actually took some alcohol.  Gin and tonic and alcoholic ginger beer.  I nearly bought some coloured drinks from the corner shop with names like Wkd and Sourz, but in the end that was a step too far.

I liked it at Rob's.  It's like my flat but bigger, and with more comfortable chairs, and with a big telly, and stairs and well, the list goes on.  He's very good at making people feel at home, so I did, even though compared to all the younglings who were there, I felt like an Alzheimer's patient who'd gone out for a walk and wandered into a young person's house by mistake.

It wasn't my place to say it, but I did anyway.  'That Glastonbury coverage is a bit loud, it's doin' me 'ead in!' or words to that effect.  There was somebody on called Rizzle Razzle or something, who I thought was Dizzee Rascal, but it wasn't, but then Dizzee Rascal turned up anyway, although I couldn't tell the difference. And the two presenters were two of those annoyingly smug young people, who seemed to be just sitting around talking absolute crap about how great Glastonbury is, and I just wished they'd go away, especially the woman in the yellow raincoat.  What was she even doing in a raincoat?  She was in the studio.  None of this was making me want to get a telly.

Eventually, well after my normal bed time, we got a series of taxis into town, for some reason these days if you order a 12 seater, you get 3 4 seaters.  I know it still adds up to 12, but it would have been nice to go together.

Then when I got out of the taxi, Fuck me if I hadn't just been emptied out onto the set of 28 Days Later.  There were bodies everywhere!  I don't even like horror films!  There was some bloke who had just decided to go to sleep on the floor.  The incredibly young people I was with, starting yelling 'Snapchat' and getting their camera phones out to get a picture of this sleepy guy, and understandably this just seemed to enrage the guy's girlfriend who then proceeded to challenge us all to a fight simultaneously.

I usually go through that part of town at 7 in the morning on my bike, if I'm lucky there's a guy power washing the street, but 11 pm on a Friday night, it's unreal.  I knew I should have just run off then, but 'Oh, !' no, just come for one! the young people said.  I had to pay to get into Avalon, which I didn't mind because it was only a quid, but as soon as I got inside, I wanted my money back.

I queued up for my one drink for a while and had to shout really loud to get it.  Well, I said I'd stay for one, so I thought I'd neck it as quick as possible and then revert to Plan A and run away.  There were people falling over everywhere, the floor was a sticky slick of split drinks, and I felt like a rabbit trapped in the headlights of an oncoming car, except without the option of just diving out of the way.

I am often left puzzled by what the point of things is, and Avalon was no different.  Someone told me people go there to meet the opposite sex, and if that's the case there couldn't possibly be a more inefficient way of doing it.  For a start everyone is drunk, the lighting is quite poor, and it's impossible to communicate with anyone except in sign language.  I don't even know sign language.

The worst bit was, not only was I with people I know that I couldn't speak to, I kept meeting more and more people I know who I couldn't speak to either.  It was a lot like being a work, but after having had my hearing removed.  I saw Rochelle, and Michelle, and Jonny Tingate, and I also think I saw the new guy from my team, who starts on Monday, but even if I'd managed to flag him down, what the hell was I going to say to him?  Rob was smiling all the time, and he really seemed to be enjoying himself.  Whether he was enjoying himself more, because I looked so out of place, I don't know, but pretty much the only thing I heard all night was when he leaned over and said to me 'I bet you wish you were back at mine listening to Dizzee Rascal now!'.  Too right I did.

I felt old, I mean really old in there, and then I saw this old guy stagger past.  He looked like he'd just fallen out of a spaceship and landed in there and he couldn't wait to get out.  I nearly went with him!

That wasn't even the craziest part.  There was this girl in there, who was so far off her face I think her face was in a different time zone.  She was trying to get us all to dance to something, it might have been Bon Jovi, I can't remember, and then she disappeared.  A few minutes later I went to the toilet and as I was stood at the urinal I thought 'These walls are bloody thin, I can hear a girl singing through the wall from the women's toilets next door'.  Except then the cubicle door behind me opened and she was actually in the mens' toilets with some bloke.  I don't think they were getting up to much though, not with all the singing that was going on.

And the other crazy part was that all of the songs that were being played at deafening volume weren't even recent.  And this was where the whole thing became a recurring nightmare within a dream.  All the songs that were on, Blink 182, the Offspring, Wheatus Teenage Dirtbag etc were all the songs my step daughter used to play too loud in her bedroom 10 years ago.  Except this time there was even less chance of me getting the volume turned down.

Anyway, I drank my one drink that I promised I'd have and then (by this time is waa a quarter to 12, wow!) I ran off.  Which is maybe what I should have done, as soon as I fell out of the taxi.

I didn't go to bed as soon as I got in.  For one thing I had developed a severe case of tinnitis.  Then things got even worse.  I don't generally drink, I mean, at all!  And because I'd drunk my last drink so fast, even though I was now home, and not drinking, I was now getting more and more drunk.  I tried drinking coffee and milk and eventually I went to bed, but it wasn't till about 3 am that I started to get less drunk instead of more.  Except, then after I stopped getting drunker, I started getting more hungover.  And boy oh boy, being humgover!  There's a feeling I haven't missed since the last time it happened, which was probably about 5 years ago.

I got up at 7 am, and drank about another 9 coffees, and went for a walk, and drank some chocolate milk, and went out for breakfast, and eventually about 2 pm, I started to feel less hungover, and almost normal again.

So now, almost 10 months after I almost went in there the first time, I have been to Avalon.  Although I would be very surprised if I end up in there again anytime soon!


Sunday, 12 May 2013

This can't be History! It hasn't finished happening yet!

Yesterday I watched the FA Cup Final, between Wigan and Manchester City.

Wigan were the underdogs, but they won, and they deserved to.  They were the better team, and so when they scored in the 90th minute I was pleased for them.  It reminded me of the first FA Cup Final I watched in 1978 when underdogs Ipswich beat the favourites Arsenal.  That final was also similar in that Ipswich played better, had lots of chances, but didn't score till near the end.  When they did score it was completely deserved, justice was done blah blah blah.

My enjoyment of Wigan's last minute winner was however, spoiled somewhat by Clive Tyldesley, who, nanoseconds after the winning goal, set off on a speed-talking sprintathon down Hyperbole Avenue which didn't stop for about 20 minutes, going on and on about what a historic moment it was, and how it was the most historic moment since 1988 when Wimbledon won, and then he pretty much went through all the underdog goalscorers they've ever been in the history of the FA Cup.  He also pointed out that goalscorer Ben Watson looks like Prince Harry, and then tried his best to get a load of Royal references in there too.  I would have switched the telly off, or kicked it in, but I wanted to see Wigan celebrate their success.  The only time good ol' Clive stopped talking was to allow the equally naff Andy Townsend to get a few equally nonsensical words in, about finding the last piece of the jigsaw and other unrelated tosh.

please see previous rant about over-excited commentators

Later in the evening, I found a documentary on ITV about Aberdeen winning the European Cup Winners Cup in 1983, when Alex Ferguson was the manager, and they beat Real Madrid in the final in Gothenburg.  The programme itself was absolutely excellent, but a special treat was the highlights of the Final, which was commentated on by Brian Moore and Ian St John.  Tyldesley and Townsend they are most definitely not!  They didn't go on about history in the making and all that, they just talked about the actual game they were commentating on, and what was happening in it.  And sometimes, when there was nothing that needed saying, because it was all up there on the screen, they didn't do any talking at all.  They just sat there quietly.  

if you want to see what I mean, follow this link

It's fair to say that when I was 15 and I watched Aberdeen win the Cup Winners Cup I was aware of what a good team they were, but I probably didn't fully appreciate the quality of the two guys in the commentary box.

Brian Moore died in 2001.  Something I didn't know about him was that he was a lifelong Gillingham fan and the club's fanzine was called 'Brian Moore's Head looks like London Planetarium', which in turn is named after a line in the Half Man Half Biscuit Song 'Dickie Davies' Eyes'.

here's the video. I think the guy smashing his flat up at the end might have just finished watching Tyldesley

I pinched this little excerpt from the fanzine's website:

The recent loss of Brian Moore was felt right across the British game. He was an icon, and not just because of the shape of his head. For many of us during our formative years he represented the face of football on ITV – fronting The Big Match on a Sunday afternoon. His commentaries were knowledgeable and passionate. His love for the game was obvious for all to see (and hear).
He was from an era where football was less about money and greed and more about the sheer childish joy of watching the game. His style was unique and his reading of the game on a par with any of his peers. He came across as a true gentleman without the arrogance or ego of many within the game.

There are millions of reasons why you could argue that modern day football isn't what it used to be.  That's maybe why football commentators over-excitedly seize on any drama whatsoever and shout it from the rooftops.

I miss lots of things about the football I remember from my youth.  And since yesterday, I miss Brian Moore too.

Saturday, 4 May 2013

Flushing my head down the toilet, melting my face off and hanging around near the Death Star again

I don't like to celebrate my birthday for just one day.  I usually like to spread the celebration over the course of a week, partly because, on the actual birthday itself there's way too much pressure.  I can hear my internal monologue screaming at me every second 'ARE YOU HAVING A GOOD TIME?' YOU'VE GOT TO ENJOY IT, IT'S YOUR BIRTHDAY.  Sometimes I feel more relaxed on the days either side, because the pressure's off.

This year was no exception.  The actual birthday was on Sunday, but just to make sure I also celebrated it on Saturday and the following Wednesday.

I went to see my mum, brother and nephew on Saturday, and we had a nice family day.  My brother is moving house soon, so he's in disarray and even if he wasn't he probably wouldn't have got me anything.  I spent some of the day making him offers for some of his furniture and white goods, which he mainly just laughed at and said he could get more for it on Ebay.

As I was leaving, and as an afterthought he gave me a small size red girl's onesy which was on his staircase, and wished me Happy Birthday.  It doesn't fit, and even though there are no pictures of me trying it on, I wish even the mental picture I've got of me looking in the mirror at myself wearing it could also be destroyed.  My 3 year old nephew Jack gave me a small yellow car, which he will probably want back.  Later in Leeds, my mum bought me fish and chips from the politest fish and chip shop in the world in Leeds, where all the staff repeatedly addressed the customers as lady and gent.

Sunday was my actual birthday.  I went on Facebook early in the morning, and nobody at all was wishing me happy birthday on there.  A few months earlier I had deleted my birth date off there in case someone tried to steal my identity. Whether this has stopped me being cloned by a gang of criminal masterminds is open to debate, but more to the point it was now stopping me getting publicity for my birthday.  My immediate response was to abandon all worry of identity theft and to start firing out attention-seeking status updates.  People ignoring you updates on Facebook is bad any day of the week, but on your birthday.  Give me a break.

After doing a bit of digital attention seeking I went off to Asda with the birthday money my mum gave me and bought 5 DVDs for £15 and Born to Die by Lana Del Rey for £7 (I had to add £2 of my own money).  The jury's still out on Lana Del Rey.  She does seem a bit on the miserable side, and it's not exactly easy listening, but it didn't make me want to crash the car, like Nicky Minaj once did.

When I got home from Asda, Ruth took me out for my Sunday dinner to Chadwicks in Maltby.  I like to go there because you can tell what the meat is.  Sometimes these Sunday dinners places, they serve up generic meat which could be anything, but at Chadwicks you can definitely tell that the pork is made of pork.  This filled me up for most of the day, but I still managed to be ridiculously greedy and have curry for tea.  I was so full by bedtime I had to leave the rest till breakfast on Monday.

In the afternoon I watched one of the DVDs I'd bought from Asda which was Everything Must Go, starring Will Ferrell.  It was supposed to be a comedy about an alcoholic man who gets locked out of his house by his wife, and has all his stuff dumped on the lawn, and he has to sell it to get some money for some cans so he can carry on being an alcoholic.  I'm hoping to sell my house too soon, and I might be getting rid of some of my stuff too, but I'm not locked out and it's not on the lawn, and I'm not an alcoholic, so there the similarities end.  I don't really know why two of the films I bought had Will Ferrell in because I don't even think he's funny and this one certainly wasn't funny at all, just a bit sad.

I took a break from celebrating my birthday on Monday and Tuesday, so I could attend some training at work, the purpose of which is to help me prepare me for a job I won't be able to do, and which I don't really want.  The training is so solid that every other day my brain starts overheating so badly I have to go flush it down the toilet and hyperventilate into a brown paper bag for a few hours, until it resets itself.

Because my brain keeps melting, I decided to spend Wednesday doing some more birthday stuff.  I had a Yorkie for breakfast (which was left over from a previous day's 3 for 2 offer) , and then after another instalment of the training I don't understand, I went out after work to Alfornos with my pals from the Batching and Scanning Team (a job I almost understood).

I had about an hour between the finish of the training I hadn't understood and the start of the meal, so I parked up in Darlington and had a wander round in the sun looking at stuff and then I went to Nero's for a coffee.

I spent some of the hour revisiting my redundancy hotspots.  It's not really much of a tour as the places I've been fired from are all pretty close together.  I went past Lloyds TSB on Blackwellgate (fired 1998), Poundland on High Row (used to be Waterstone's, fired 2008), Waterstone's in the Cornmill (fired 2012).  Don't forget I'd also just come from direct from Student Loans (fired 2012).

As I was wandering round in the sunshine, I reflected on the fact that for me, Darlington is a lot like the Death Star.  I never really want to go there, but once I get within a certain radius, it starts pulling me in with its tractor beam, and it only lets me go when it's ready to dump me overboard before the jump into hyperspace, with the rest of the space junk and astronaut poo.

Looking back on my decision making in relation to Darlington, I never know how much of it is free will, and how much is tractor beam.  I completely illogically chose to go work at the TSB there in 1993 when staying in Stockton was closer and easier, and I also chose to go work at the Waterstones there in 2005 when staying in Middlesbrough would have been much, much easier.  Both times I took on extra travelling and longer hours in the hope of a better job, and both times I was fired out the door, like crap off the bottom of a shoe.  Both times I sort of did get a better job for a while, but then when Darlington had finished with me it blew me away like the Planet Alderaan got blown away in Star Wars.  For a while after each obliteration I was just space dust floating around in smithereens.

After the second lot of getting smithereened in 2008 I said I'd never go back to Darlington, as I was sick of getting Death Starred, but by 2012 the only job I could get in 6 months of trying was at Student Loans. so I had to go back on my promise.

I got fired from Student Loans on Halloween last year (the only good point of which was not having to answer the door to trick or treaters because I was out having a leaving do) , and just for good measure I got fired from Waterstone's again at Christmas, just in case the first firing hadn't made me feel enough like a piece of dead bird the cat had dragged in.

Yet despite everything, I got my Student Loans job back again in January, I got offered a fixed term contract in April, and in the same week I even got a promotion, although I'll probably lose that when they figure out I don't know what I'm doing.

Anyway, as I was wandering around and drinking coffee, and it was nice that it was sunny, I stopped thinking of Darlington just as somewhere where things have ended badly, but started to think of it as a place where good things start too.

All the jobs I've had in Darlington, even though they went wrong in the end they were good at first, and they all lifted me up out of the stupor that I was in at the time, and I shouldn't concentrate on just the ending, because I met some great people along the way who I'll always remember.  It would be a mistake to focus only on the shitcanning and the getting fired into space and destroyed part, because the canning was just the bit at the end, and everything ends eventually anyway.

I also reflected that Darlington has been the starting point for lots of my best holidays.  Time spent sitting nervously on the platform drinking Costa coffee, with cycling trousers on that made it look like I'd got two melted lolly sticks for legs, had often been the jumping off point for some of my greatest  adventures.  Darlington was also the place I was relieved to end up at, after I nearly died in an episode of Air Crash Investigation when the flight from India I was on didn't run out of fuel over Glasgow, even though I thought it had, because I was deaf.

So this was what I was thinking, in that hour between having my head flushed down the toilet and going out for a meal, I was thinking about all the ends and all the beginnings that have happened in and around Darlington, and how everything ends eventually anyway, but that the end isn't the whole story.  And I was thinking also, that life is a lot like the movies, because sometimes really good stories have rubbish endings, but after the titles have gone up, and you've seen who the dolly grip was, and the confusion of the ending that doesn't make any sense has passed, the adventure and the thrill of the story still remains.

And so emboldened by this new thinking about Darlington, I went to my leaving do, which was also a birthday meal, and also a general team meal out.  Times are hard financially these days, so any meals out I go on have to serve at least 3 purposes all at once.

I was the last to arrive at Alfornos, and I discovered we were sat on the same big long table as last time, but this time there were more people, so it wasn't quite big enough.  I managed to force my way in somewhere, although this resulted in not enough room for everyone's elbows, so Kirsty had to eat her dinner whilst sat in the Argos over the road.  The fact she couldn't reach the table seemed to affect how much she gave as a tip.  I could reach fine, so I gave a pound and five pence.

This time I sat next to Jack and Natalie, which I haven't done before, as usually they're at the opposite end of the table.  I've been sending them links to my blogs on Twitter, so they have heard most of my interesting stories already, and this made me worry that in person and in real life I might not be interesting enough, because usually in the blogs I just leave the best bits in, whereas in real life, and in real time, all the boring bits are left in too.

There was quite a spectrum of drinks on show at the meal.  My end of the table, including me, were mostly on the pink cider, but the far end of the table seemed to be heading full speed ahead on an out of control train to down a cul de sac of Guinness towards oblivion.  The bar staff at Alfornos couldn't pull the stuff fast enough.  Phil and Nathan had entered into some sort of dark matter drinking competition, during which Nathan may or may not have been sick.

Once I'd got myself wedged into place, the birthday presents came out.  This was the moment I'd been waiting all these months for, when I'd been putting money into other people's collections.  I reflected that it was a lot nicer getting presents in Alforno's, than out of a cardboard box next to the scanners.

I got quite a few different presents, and I did my best to hold people's attention, while I opened them.  But that's a lot harder to do than it used to be in the 70s.  These days you're battling against people looking under the table at the their Twitter feeds and watching people falling over on Youtube.  This is smart phone hell.  I tried waving my arms a bit, and showing stuff around, to try and keep people's attention, but these days it's a tough crowd out there.  I think at least some people were interested.

The presents I got all seemed largely appropriate.  I got a DVD of the Hurt Locker (at work I don't have a locker), and a DVD of the Green Zone, (I think if I survive my training I'm going to work in the Green Zone).  I got a Parker pen (I used to watch Thunderbirds) and an old man's tie (old men need ties, it makes them look like they know what they're doing), and I also got a cinema voucher to add to the pile of cinema vouchers I've already got for winning team of the month.

I tried the tie on, even though it didn't go with my shirt, and I kept it on for a while, which resulted in me having a hot neck, and feeling like my head might overheat again.  How the hell does Kevin T wear a shirt and tie for work, sometimes with a jumper over the top?  My head was nearly on fire after wearing just a tie for 10 minutes.  I took the tie off after a while and put my head in a bucket of ice, but then I put it back on for the photos (the tie, not the bucket).

Unlike last time at the same venue, I didn't have to wait hours for my pizza and they didn't need to keep flinging Italians out of the kitchen to apologise to me, which was good, but not as funny.

Also, the restaurant staff were nice enough to let us bring a Morrison's birthday cake in, instead of opting for any of their £4 desserts, and they even mouthed the words to Happy Birthday when people were singing it to me, although they dipped out at the part where my name went, because they don't know who I am.  And the cake even had candles on, which I got to blow out, and I can't remember the last time I did that.  And when I was blowing them out I felt like I was 8 again, and people said that's how I looked.  And some people took photos of me looking 8, although I haven't seen them yet, to see if it's true.

While the cake was still on fire, and even though I thought it might set fire to my face, everyone said I needed to make a wish but I couldn't think of anything, except that I was having a nice time being alive, so all I could think of was I hope I don't die soon.  I wasn't too specific with the age I didn't want to die before, just not too soon.  It's not the world's most positive wish, but it's much better than 'I wish I was dead', which I of course don't.

And as I drove home after the meal, I realised that Darlington isn't really the Death Star after all.  If you spend enough time anywhere, bad stuff will happen to you, because it happens everywhere.  I should try and keep things in perspective, and when I think about all the bad stuff that's happened to me in Darlington, I should also remember all the people I've met there who have made my life so much better than it would have been without them.  And while it's not possible always to forget the sadness of things ending, I should also make sure to remember that feeling of hopefulness and optimism that comes from new beginnings too.  Because it was that feeling that brought me to Darlington in the first place.

And so off I go into my latest Death Star / Darlington adventure.  I hope that this time I don't end up getting flushed away with the rest of the space junk, at least not for a while.  And even if I do, I hope I have a nice time first.




Saturday, 20 April 2013

Foals and Chimps - a tour of Edinburgh

I've been to Edinburgh before, in 2005, but I was in no state to enjoy it by the time I arrived.  I'd spent the week cycling there from Newcastle with Ruth, and after spending 5 hours doing laps of Edinburgh looking for our accommodation we weren't in much of a mood for being tourists.  I did go for a look at the castle after Ruth was passed out in bed but it was full of seats for the tattoo or something, so I couldn't get in.

Or even any good art?
The story of the 2005 episode can be found here

A scene of past misery
I've had this week off work, and I've planned and re-planned how I was going to spend it to within an inch of its life, then at the last minute, Ruth and I decided that the umbrella heading of 'getting away from it all' included getting away from each other for a while, and taking a break from our ongoing attempt to retain our title as undisputed 'World Bickering Champions of the World'.

The Royal Mile - Edinburgh
She went off to a cottage in Cumbria on Sunday which left me with a decision to make, and I am terrible at making decisions.  I was thinking I might go back to the West Coast of Scotland, to visit some bits I've previously missed, maybe Jura and Colonsay, but there's some big walking festival on in that area this week.  Seeing the pictures on the internet of last year's event, wizened but fit geriatrics wearing rucksacks the size of houses and walking boots and grinning from ear to ear as they pour out of boats onto the normally sparsely populated islands put me right off.  Also, when I saw the forecast it looked like I'd probably be blown home again anyway.  I took it as a warning that Alex Salmond's personal wind turbine had been blown over in high winds.  I figured the east of Scotland would be less windy, at least for the first couple of days, so I decided to go back and have another go at Edinburgh, 8 years after my first aborted attempt.

I almost booked into the same B&B as last time, miles from the centre of town but then I got an email from Travelodge advertising cheap rooms right bang in the centre of Edinburgh.  That'll do for me, I thought.

My hotel room - between Jenners and Thunderbird 3
I could have gone to Edinburgh on Monday, but I went to York instead, to have a practice run at being in a city on my own.  I did really well.  I bought some new shoes (I'd got yellow paint on my other ones taking stuff to the tip) and I also bought some Foals cds from HMV to listen to while I was away (Holy Fire and Antidote).  I did especially well with the shoes because I could have bougtht some for £50 which didn't fit as well, but for once I paid extra and got the £70 ones.  I didn't even get a sweat on, I just paid for them and left.  In fact, I kept them on, and put the ones with paint on in the Clarks carrier.  I sat down outside Fenwicks for a bit, casually texted Mr Fenwick's grand-daughter who I happen to be a close personal friend of, looked at my shoes, and thought how much better I looked in them.

This is York, not Edinburgh
It was only when I got back from York that I realised Ruth had taken the laptop away with her, the very thing I was going to use to transfer the cds to my phone to listen to while I was away.  The bloody Linux computer I was given, which is excellent in many ways, can't seem to read the phone, and it makes the music files absolutely massive so you can only get about 3 songs on, so that was a no-go.

Can you help me please?  Is this the way to the zoo?
I was so determined to listen to Foals while I was away, that on Monday evening I crawled up into the loft and reassembled an old PC from discarded bits and pieces, to enable the cds to get copied.  Luckily I'd been up in the loft for hours in the last few days throwing stuff out, so I knew where to find the monitor, keyboard, mouse and 3 cables required to effect the copying of the cds.  It was my brother who got me into Foals btw.  I'd never heard of them before then.

Edinburgh Castle - It's on top of a volcano (almost everyone knows that)
As well as her laptop Ruth had also taken the car to Cumbria, so I had to improvise.  I got a Sikh to give me a lift to the train station.  He charged me though (it was a taxi).  I booked a first class ticket from Darlington, it's not much more expensive on certain trains and they give you free coffee and sandwiches, so you effectively get your money back.

Princes Street Gardens - Spring is finally here!
I sat next to a beautiful young girl / woman on the train with dark hair, pink painted fingernails, a yellow hoodie and a massive red rucksack.  I couldn't make out the writing on the back of her hoodie, but I imagined she was part of a rowing team, or a student or something.  I thought about talking to her, but I didn't want to be the annoying guy on the train who talks to you, so I didn't bother.  Besides, she'd bought a first class ticket, so I thought she might want to be left alone with her laptop and her nine other electronic gadgets.  It was probably as well I kept my distance, otherwise I could have microwaved my own head, just being near all the chargers.

Don't look directly at the sun - you could die!
I like Travelodges.  They may be no frills, but they're usually right in town centres, and it's not like B&B where the owners want to know your life story and they want to interview you about the state of the NHS, and where they don't want you to bash the antiques or damage the hand carved wallpaper on your way up to the room with the fucking expensive curtains that are on strings so you don't get hand prints on them, and the bath has got a roll top which is just the most stupid idea ever because where do you put your shampoo?  Actually that was just once, but you get the idea.

Travelodges don't give a shit who you are.  You pay them up front, you turn up, they give you a keycard, they don't ask you a thing.  They give you a room with absolutely no sensory stimulation in it that could have been designed by the Soviets, and they forget about you.  And this week, that was exactly what I needed.  Edinburgh is stimulating enough, without having art in your bedroom.

This particular Travelodge was about 10 feet from the epicentre of Edinburgh.  It was down a back alley in between some bins, but I didn't care.  It was close enough to the centre I could nip back to the toilet while I was out sight seeing if I felt like it.

Princes Street Travelodge
Before I even checked in, I went to the Tourist Information Centre.  Where's the cinema and where's the zoo, I asked?  One was a 10 minute walk away, the other was a bus ride away.  Don't you care about museums? they asked, they're even nearer.  I'll have a look at them when I've been to the zoo, I said.

After I'd checked in to the least stimulating hotel room on the planet (something about it reminded me of Kafka, ie my prison cell, my fortress), I went for a walk in the wind.  The hotel had everything you need from a hotel.  A bed, a hot shower, a kettle and some cups and some tea and coffee.  It also had a TV but I never even switched it on.  I don't go on holiday to watch TV!

The excellent view from my hotel room
I stood around outside the Scottish National Gallery for a bit, trying to get a sense of the scale of the place, and then I offered to take a picture of an Argentinian.  She was trying to do it herself with the timer but her camera kept blowing away.  In exchange she took one for me.  I also took a picture of some Korean guy but he was like David Bailey, he took all the spontaneity out of it by trying to spend hours setting the shot up, and then he wasn't happy I hadn't got his legs in, so I just wandered off and left him to it.  Eventually he roped the Argentinian in to help. It was a good job I met the Korean before seeing Olympus Has Fallen, otherwise I might just have blown his head off with a bazooka.

Here's a picture of me taken by an Argentinian
I felt a bit overwhelmed at first by Edinburgh.  I always feel like that in big places, like cities and mountains.  Also, as well as the usual city noise, there were about 50 million workmen bashing the hell out of the city centre putting tramlines in.  I hadn't eaten on the train, even though free crisps had been available, so I wandered into a shopping centre and bought a Greggs meal deal for £3, followed by a Millie's cookie.  Both the young girls who served me told me to 'Have a nice day'.  Give me a chance, I've only just got here, I didn't say.

I was glad to be out of the noise and the wind and the sun (I remembered everything but sunglasses).  I sat and ate my late lunch between the Early Learning Centre and Dorothy Perkins.  There wasn't much overlap between the two sets of customers.  I guess if the young mums populating ELC ever did shop at Dorothy Perkins they had now abandoned this in favour of buying go-karts and educational drumkits for their offspring.

This could be the title of my autobiography - or anyone else's
I like people watching.  I sat there for ages, feeling relaxed and feeling sorry for some kid who was traipsing along behind his Channel 5 documentary size parents, munching his way through a family size tub of muffins.  His life's fucked already, I remember thinking, it was only later in the week I realised he was probably killing chimps as well with those muffins.

Around 5.30 pm I went back to Kafka's study for a bit, had a shower and a shave, listened to some Foals  and then went to the cinema.  I passed a lot of beggars on the streets.  Almost all of them had a black dog.  I used to have a black dog, who I loved.  I'm glad I didn't have to live outside with him.

My dog died before I got a digital camera, which I regret
I never know what to do with beggars.  Are they for real?  In Edinburgh a lot of them had signs which said things like '100% genuine beggar' and 'I really am homeless'.  These affected me a bit like signs in the supermarket which say things like 'Our beef isn't full of horses'.  It just added to my mistrust.  This may be a poor statement on my humanity, but there you go.  Also, I got pretty good at blanking beggars in India, even the ones that used to hold hands with me and rub my leg.  I did eventually give a small amount of money to one beggar in particular, and I selected him partly because he didn't even have a dog (maybe he's saving up for one)  I'm not even capable of looking after a dog properly, so it seems a bit irresponsible to have one if you haven't got a home.

At the cinema I saw Oblivion with Tom Cruise.  Although the Moon and most of the Earth had been destroyed in a post-apocalyptic future, they had really nice white clothes and shiny apartments in the sky and Looper it was not.

Anyway, I thought it was excellent.  Then I ignored some more beggars with dogs and went to bed, although I had a Yorkie first from the vending machine in the Travelodge lobby.

Vue Cinema Edinburgh - now with extra Giraffe
I woke up at 6 am on Wednesday feeling really hungry.  By 7 I was showered and in McDonald's eating a sausage McMuffin, which came free with a greasy hash brown (actually I think it was the other way round).  I also ordered coffee and orange juice.  The whole meal only cost about £4.  McDonalds was so close to the hotel I could have ordered it out of the window.  I'd intended to go to the zoo first thing, but I didn't want to get there before they opened so I wandered up the castle for a look around, took some panoramic photos in the rain and then I started meandering down the Royal Mile.

Edinburgh Castle Car Park in the rain
By the time I got to the Starbucks halfway down my new shoes were wet and so were my jeans.  It was 8 o'clock in the morning.  Things weren't going well.  I went in to Starbucks, ordered a massive bucket of coffee, and went upstairs to look out of the window and dry out.  And it was great.  I really started to relax.  I had a book to read, about a vicar working in a supermarket, a fantastic view out the window, and coffee.  Loads of wet cyclists with wet kids on the back in hi-vis ponchos kept bouncing past on the cobbles and I was safely indoors.  As I sat there relaxing I remembered the stress of arriving in Edinburgh by bike 8 years earlier and having my fillings loosened on those very cobbles, and being completely lost.

Starbucks in Edinburgh - they sell coffee in buckets
By 10 am it had almost stopped raining so feeling dried out and recharged I went off to get the bus to the zoo.  I stopped at a couple of museums on the way, but that didn't hold my attention for long because all I could find were pictures in gold frames of 300 year old people in wigs, who all seemed to have exactly the same face.

I caught the bus to the zoo, which cost me £3.50 for a return.  The young blonde female bus driver didn't remind me at all of bus drivers at home.  She even shouted me helpfully when it was my stop, even though there was a massive sign out the window that said 'Zoo'.

This was the toilet at the zoo
By the time I got to the zoo, it was nearly 12 and raining heavily again.  I paid my 16 quid and went in. The girls on the desk were in a bit of a flap about not being able to show me the Giant Pandas.  I'm not bothered I said, I didn't even know you had any.  For the first half an hour in the zoo all I could find was a wet dog hiding so I went for a sit down and a sandwich, in the monkey cafe or some such place.  It was pretty expensive, but a sticker on the sandwich assured me it had been made on the premises.

Lunch at the zoo - I chose a table with a plant on it
It was actually quite nice, and the young girl who served me was still brimming over with youthful enthusiasm and keenness.  As I sat and watched the rain bouncing off passing schoolkids I wondered whether I'd wasted my time and money coming here.  Then two wet women with two small wet children came in and sat at the next table.  A boy and a girl.  The little boy was called Walter.  They were so enthusiastic about what they'd seen and they couldn't wait to tell daddy, and their unbounded joy totally blasted me out of my cynicism, so I thought I'd go and have a proper look.  I saw them again later, and they were doing some more marvelling at stuff, talking about Edinburgh and all its majesty.  A fragment of a half man half biscuit lyric came to me: 'see how we yawn, at your bile and your scorn, it's a beautiful day, Peace on Earth has been played, make a noise with your toys, and ignore the killjoys, 'cos it's cliched to be cynical at Christmas.  It wasn't Christmas, but you get the idea.

Some penguins, doing what penguins do
I looked at some penguins for a bit, and then I watched some lions sleeping, until the big male lion woke up and if he was wanting a staring competition he didn't get one because the glass between us didn't look anywhere near thick enough for my liking, so I pretty much ran off.

The lion that stared at me
Most of the animals were behind glass, which made the photographs come out quite badly, but the zebras were just behind a fence, as they were considered low risk, so I got a few pictures of them which are better than the rest.

Zebras - not considered to be overly dangerous
I liked the monkeys best.  Probably because they're most like me.  98% to be exact.  It was in the chimp house that I found out that the chimp's habitat is being destroyed to make biscuits and toothpaste, and I felt bad about it, even though I'm not the one cutting the trees down but I do sometimes eat cheap biscuits.  I'd rather have the chimps.

Chimps and Veg
My enjoyment of the chimps was a little bit affected by a young girl talking into a dictaphone (or whatever the modern equivalent is).  She was actually commentating on the chimps.  'It's 2.05 pm, Eddie is urinating, Stella is eating some fennel, Archie is throwing a banana, 2.06 pm Archie is eating some broccoli, now Stella is urinating'.  That sort of thing.  Not sure if she was a zoo employee, or just a keen amateur, but I wished she'd go away.  Which reminds me of a joke (it's not really a joke).  Q. What's the difference between a chimp and a human?  A. When a chimp looks in the mirror he knows he's looking at a monkey.  The joke that isn't a joke works just as well if instead of the word human you substitute the word commentator.
Here's me playing Spot the Monkey
After the chimps I drank my orange juice from McDonalds which I'd saved for later ie now and I went back into town.  I had some Harry Ramsdens fish and chips served to me by a dour female Eastern European, who pointed out as if it was a novelty that I could have them with salt and vinegar if I wanted.  I was having them with salt and vinegar 40 years ago while your parents were still street urchins in Vilnius I totally didn't say, and then I went to the cinema again.  This time I wasn't so lucky with my film choice.  The film I went to see on Day 2 was Carry on up the Whitehouse, also known as Olympus has Fallen.  It absolutely had to be a spoof, except no-one had told the stellar cast and they were all playing it dead straight.

It was absolute carnage.  It was like the first 20 minutes of Saving Private Ryan, but for the whole film.  It was like a much bloodier version of Die Hard, or Air Force One.  People weren't just getting shot, they were getting bazooka'd in the face and having their heads cut off with helicopter blades, and having bombs put down their trousers.  It was horrible.  The two Scottish girls next to me were gasping and nearly passing out with it all, as was I.

Quick, let's blow some shit up
Amongst the most ridiculous parts were the fact that Gerard Butler had been fired from his job 18 months ago, but he still knew all the access codes for everything in the White House. and the combination for the President's private safe.  But the most stupid part was at the end.  Not since Roger Moore dressed as a clown in Octopussy have I seen such a clumsily handled defusing an atomic bomb scene.  (I wrote about that one here)

Poor old Gerard Butler (who is almost as old as me) only had a minute left to save the Earth but to do it he had to input a code that was about 77 characters long, including hashtag and back slash and all sorts of stuff, both in upper and lower cases.  You could see him thinking 'Oh, for fuck's sake, I've just killed 47,000 terrorists, now America's going to be completely destroyed because of my lack of keyboard skills'.  After the film I had another Yorkie, went to bed, and fell asleep listening to Foals.

View from Calton Hill
The next morning (Thursday) I was up at 6 am again, paid for an extra night in the Travelodge because I was liking being in Edinburgh so much, showered and was in McDonalds again for 7.  Same breakfast.  Greasy hash brown, sausage mcmuffin, coffee and orange juice for later.  I went for a walk up Calton Hill, it was still a bit windy, but sunny too, and with a bit of rainbow thrown in.  The views were amazing, I took about a million photos including some photos which I took outside the American Consulate without being shot at.

Outside the American Consulate
Rainbow! One of the advantages of getting up early
Part of the reason for staying another day was that I wanted to go to the Museum of Modern Art on a free bus to see Death to Death and Some Mothers Do Ave Em or some such exhibition about the human body.  On the whole I prefer modern art, to paintings of George the First, but not this time.

Whatever you do, don't get the free bus
The first free bus was at 11, so like Wednesday I spent another couple of hours in Starbucks on the Royal Mile and did pretty much the same as the day before.  Reading, looking out the window, relaxing and drinking coffee.  A line I came across in the book I was reading was this: Hurry takes us out of the present, and makes monsters of us all.  I thought back on my past holidays and how often I'm working to a schedule, and trying to get somewhere, and how that turns me into a monster.  A monster with a timetable.  here's an example from last year

So the question I've been asking myself this week is this:  Should I even be on holidays with a timetable?  Often with holidays the times I look back on most fondly are those where I'd completely stopped and wasn't trying to get anywhere.  Mevagissey Harbour wall reading Murakami, Charlestown harbour having a coffee with Ruth and Hudson, Craster out the back of the pub eating crab sandwiches and looking at Dunstanburgh Castle, having a big fat burger at Felixkirk on Royal Wedding Day.  There's a joy that comes from movement, and from arriving in and passing through places, especially on a bike, but there are also times when what's most required is to just to sit and do nothing.  To look out of windows and to not have an agenda and not to have anywhere to go.  And this week I needed that more than the moving around stuff.

Nice building, shame about the art
I spent so long looking out of windows I missed the 11 am free bus to the Modern Art, and with an extra hour to spare I went to the National Portrait Gallery instead.  Inside there was the House of Annie Lennox, which was like the Seventh Circle of Hell, and then I saw the best Art I saw all week, although it was photography, so I'm not sure if that counts as art.  It was lots of black and white photos from the thirties by Edith Tudor Hart.  Even if she was a Russian spy, I definitely recommend it.  Nobody's perfect.  Seeing all the grim thirties portraits brought home to me how lucky I am.  In terms of times and places to be born, I pretty much hit the jackpot.

Here's me being a kid in the 80s
I was born at the end of the 60s in England, just before the moon landing.  I grew up in the 70s when there wasn't much else to do but run around playing football, go to the library a lot and watch westerns and Harold Lloyd, so I never got massively overweight as a kid.  I learned to develop an attention span for boring things, by not having a lot of different things going on at once.  Although we've had a few small wars, I've never had to go and fight the Nazis or any other fascist dictators.  I've always had enough to eat, and technology only really took off when I was getting on a bit, so it never dominated my childhood.  Rather helpfully, I grew up at a time when you didn't need a laptop and an i-Phone to get through a two hour train journey.  Just being on a train was exciting enough.  Whatever is outside a train window it's got to be better than watching re-runs of Bonanza, Skippy and Champion the Wonder Horse.

One of Annie Lennox's suits - Welcome to a World of Pain
Anyway, back to Edinburgh and my desire to see Modern Art.  I did manage to catch the second free bus of the day, but I wished I hadn't.  The inside of the bus was only big enough for action men and barbie dolls.  Not only were my legs crushed as soon as I tried to sit but the bus was hot and full of other crushed people.  Also, Jeremy Vine was on the radio.  If Annie Lennox was hell, this was a close second.  The outside of the Modern Art museum was pretty cool, but the art inside was absolute crap.  It was all drawings of penises and old lilos and sculptures made out of piss and breasts made out of wood hanging from the ceiling and I wished I hadn't bothered.


Here's me glad to not be on a bus anymore
Instead of waiting for the free crush-a-bus, I walked back into the city and went to see yet another movie, this time Trance by Danny Boyle.  No bloody idea what was going on in that one, but I got to see Rosario Dawson naked, including her front bottom, so it wasn't all bad.

Walking back into town - better than the bus
My cinema visits had been getting earlier, in fact my whole week of Groundhog Days were starting earlier and earlier.  Tuesday I was at the 8 o'clock cinema showing, Wednesday it was 6, by Thursday I was getting in at 4.  I had kept forgetting to have lunch so before Trance I went and had a three course meal at Ben and Jerry's (or it could have been Frankie and Benny's) before the film.

I was so knackered from the early mornings and all the walking that I went to bed at 8 pm on Thursday.   I walked so much every day the actual soles of my feet were sore every night.  But it was a good kind of sore.

What? - No caption?
Since I'd arrived on Tuesday, when I'd felt a bit overawed by the size and the noise of Edinburgh, I felt by Thursday that I'd really started to relax into it and feel at home.  I'm no good at following maps and guide books on paper, I prefer to wander round first and build a mental map and then compare it to the paper one.  The more I started to understand the layout of the city, the more I started to like it.  Being able to mentally place the Castle and the Royal Mile and Calton Hill and the cinema and the museums and all the other places I'd been in relation to my base at Princes Street, and to each other, I started to feel like I belonged.  I've had similar experiences in other cities, Bath, Wells, London, Leeds, Duisburg, Hannover, Essen for example.  Rather than finding a place on the map and deciding to go there, I like to do the going part first.

Friday morning I was up even earlier.  I had trouble sleeping past 5 am.  Again I went to McDonalds and had the same easy breakfast, although I was enjoying it less each day.  Also, the old guy sitting near me who I'd seen two days before with his mass of grey hair held together with some sort of mesh was freaking me out.  He might have even been a woman, I wasn't sure.  I don't think he'd bought any food, but he'd stocked up on the free miniature milk cartons and he was drinking them like jelly shots.

Castle
The good thing about the breakfast was that it kept my hunger at bay, and kept me fuelled up for more exploring.  I went back up to the Castle and in contrast to Wednesday it was an absolutely beautiful sunny morning up there.  I had another go at taking the panoramic pictures and these ones looked a lot better because you could see the distant hills a lot better.

Now that's why I call a Panorama
This time I walked the whole of the Royal Mile, and ended up at the Scottish Parliament building at the bottom of the hill, where I saw a duck and sat down and listened to some more Foals.

The Scottish Parliament
Here's a duck I found
As I sat in the sun feeling relaxed, I remembered being here 8 years earlier, tired and lost at the foot of Arthur's Seat in dire need of a map, without a clue how to find my B&B.  It felt better, being back again, knowing where I was this time, and with no particular place to go.

My second home in Edinburgh
I walked halfway back up the Mile, and for the third morning in a row ordered a big bucket of coffee from my favourite Baristas at Starbucks.  It was later in the day than my other two visits and some people in suits were in there having business meetings, either in person or on the phone, talking about emails and spreadsheets and network cables, and saying things like 'to all intents and purposes' and 'taking the process forward' and 'blue sky thinking'.  The only blue sky thinking I was doing was thinking I'd like to go outside and see some more blue sky.

Here it is
Being alone in a city for a few days, I did feel lonely at times and I noticed a lot of other people spending time alone.  I wondered if any of them were lonely too.  But it's so hard to tell, because these days a lot of people who are spending time alone are so absolutely laden down with gadgets that it's impossible to tell if they even feel alone, never mind lonely.  If you're getting constantly battered with status updates from everybody you've ever known, are you ever technically even on your own?

My phone is so old I could only do one half of the social networking thing on it.  I could send messages out, and sometimes I did that just to keep me from bursting with sensory overload, but my feedback loop was missing in that I couldn't see what responses I was getting, if any.

I went to the Tourist Information Centre a couple of times to use their internet, but this was only to find stuff out and to book another First Class ticket home, I didn't really have enough time to talk to anyone. I wonder if it's a sign of the times that an internet shop by the escalator in Waverley station has shut down.  With everyone and their dog now using smartphones, they probably went out of business.

Princes Street Gardens in the sun
It's like a park, but it's right by the shops
Like York, Edinburgh still has a HMV, and as it's a big one, so I thought I might be able to pick up a third Foals album to listen to after I got home, and I managed this successfully.  The third one is called Total Life Forever and I'm listening to it now.  Later I'm going to climb into the loft to transfer it onto my phone.

Although Edinburgh had really grown on me, by Friday lunchtime I was glad to be leaving.  It was filling up massively with weekend tourists and I'd enjoyed it so much during the week, when it was relatively quiet, I didn't want to have my memories ruined in the crush.  I'd already been crushed once this week.

Goodbye Thunderbird 3
The train home was the best First Class I've ever been in.  I had a seat which was both an aisle and a window seat and as well as free coffee, I also took some free crisps this time.  I sat opposite a young geeky looking man who was studying an AAT textbook.  He looked at me when he sat down with a look which seemed to say 'I've seen you but I don't really want to talk to you'.  I felt pretty much the same, so I wasn't offended.

Darlington is only 2 hours away from Edinburgh on the train, but arriving back there, it seemed so much smaller, duller and less exciting than Edinburgh, and although I felt like I got out at just the right time, I still miss it.

I got the train back to Thornaby, where I had to mix with the second class masses again (less laptops) and then I got another taxi home.  Not a Sikh this time though.

I got home and in my absence a team of cleaners had been in and cleaned my house from top to bottom (this wasn't entirely unexpected as it had been pre-arranged), and there was a £20 voucher waiting for me, for winning Team of the Month at work.  It's a Cineworld voucher.  Both these are exactly the kind of surprises you want when you get home from holiday.  So much better than a mouldy fridge.

It probably sounds as though it should have been, but this holiday was not in any way sponsored or endorsed by Starbucks, McDonalds, Travelodge, Millie's Cookies, Greggs, Vue Cinemas, Cross Country Trains, Frankie and Benny's, Edinburgh Zoo, HMV or any other big multinational companies.  Maybe it was just because I was in an unfamiliar place, that I chose to fall back on things where I knew exactly what I was getting.  I'm not sure.  What I did find though is what I already knew really, which is that all those places are only as good as the people who serve you when you go in, and everywhere I went I got service with a smile and people wished for me to have a nice day.  And I did.  I had a nice day every day, and I came away thinking of Edinburgh not so much as a holiday destination, but more of a home from home.  




Saturday, 9 February 2013

Pollo, Pizza, Butter and Wax - Another night out with young people

I like working with young people.  They've got their whole lives ahead of them, which means they're looking forward.  They're not old enough to have ballsed everything up yet, which makes them fun to be around.  They don't have very much money, and the little bit they do have, they want to spend on brightly coloured drinks and takeaways, but that's up to them.

I much prefer working with young people to working with old people.  One of the problems of working with old people is that they're looking back on everything, and to quote Inception, they are often 'full of regret, waiting to die'.  They just want to talk about how much their shares have gone down, or what scan they've just been for, or whether they'll die before or after their savings run out.

I presently find myself in that middle ground.  I'm not really young, but I'm not really old.  I don't have much money, but what I do have I've learned not to waste on coloured drinks, and although I've been for a few scans, I'm still relatively mobile, and so I haven't booked a place in the old people's home yet.

Last night I went out for a meal with lots of young people.  I had no choice.  There's only young people where I work.  In fact, 11 out of the 12 people at the meal were born after I left school, some of them were born after I got married.  It was three of the young people's birthdays, and their combined age is 68.  That's younger than my mum.  Considerate of them to cluster their birthdays together, so as to save money on having to go out multiple times.

It's the fourth time I've been out for a meal with them.  Two of the other three times were after I'd just been fired.  This time I only had a headache.  The first time was at the Copper Beech.  Massive portions of easily recognisable food at very reasonable prices.  The second time was at Cafe 85, where the food was delivered in little piles in the middle of satellite dishes after being constructed from food meccano out the back.  I wrote about that one here.

Last night was sort of a happy medium between the two.  It was at Al Forno's.  The food was slightly more expensive that the Copper Beech, and the drinks prices were astronomical, but the portions were big and the food prices were quite reasonable.  The meals also got delivered on plates approximately the same size as the food, which I always like.  I don't want to have to crawl into the middle of a plate big enough to pick up noise from the Big Bang just to go searching for the little bit of food that's in there.

Then again, I don't like the other extreme.  I don't like getting food squashed into a too small polystyrene container.  This is why I never order the special at work.  Whatever the special is, it's piled into a burger box in layers of the staff's choosing, and then you have to dig down in the style of a Chilean miner to get to the rest.  Usually with hot dinners I like to leave the best bits till last, but you can't if you veg is buried 3 feet below your steak.  Surely bigger sizes of polystyrene container are available?

Anyway, back to last night.  It was to celebrate Corinne, Natalie and Pete's birthdays (all very young and attractive, all with very good skin, at least one of them goes in for dermo-abrasion even though I have no idea what that is and they probably don't need it, as there's not a wrinkle in sight).  The table we were sat on was a lot like the picnic benches at work, but with more cutlery and less Yorkie pushers going past.

Although the food was easy to recognise, it had Italian names.  Thankfully we had brought the list, so we knew what we'd ordered.  I had Pollo Goujons followed by Pizza Piccante.  This is apparently foreign-speak for chicken nuggets and pepperoni pizza.  It was all very nice, but they must have run out of nugget sized bits of chicken in the kitchen because I got two giant ones instead that were more like chicken kievs.  Rob had a full plate of garlic bread and other people around me had ordered giant plates of potato shavings, which meant I had my own and some of other people's.  It was just as well I had 3 starters because the main course was a long time coming.  At least mine was.

The whole thing had been pre-ordered but the Andy Finn had to throw a spanner in the works by turning up late and ordering something extra on top.  As fate would have it, he'd ordered the same thing as me.

I hate that thing where most people have got their meals, but no-one wants to start until everyone has got theirs.  It's worse if the missing dish is yours.  That way, you can't eat because you haven't got anything, and the rest are watching the heat drain out of theirs while they're waiting for you.

At Alforno's they must have a special team of people who they send out to apologise to you if anything goes wrong.  I've never been apologised to, by so many people in such a short space of time in my life. And it really wasn't necessary.  I only had to wait about 5 minutes, but every 10 seconds or so they were launching somebody new out of the kitchen to apologise.  It was unreal.  They probably should have had a team meeting beforehand and agreed on the reason for the delay, but they were all just winging it.

The first guy said it was 10 seconds away, but that it was overdone, it had been in the oven too long, so if I wanted I could send it back. You should have brought it first instead of last, I suggested, I've not worked in a restaurant, but I've got an oven, I know that much.  The 10 seconds came and went and no pizza, and I was starting to get anxious.  How overdone was it going to be, and how bad would it have to be for me to send it back?  By this point I was hoping it was going to be a tiny charred black disc, so that it would be obviously inedible, as I hate having to return stuff.

Anyway, as the staff continued on their sponsored excusathon, the reasons for the lateness kept changing, until eventually they came out and pointed at Andy Finn, and blamed him for ordering the same thing.  They tried to make a case for only being able to get one pizza in the oven at once, and Andy had taken my spot, but as at least another 5 people on the table had pizzas, I think it's more likely that they just made what was on our original list, and somehow Andy's order had got lost, but he'd got mine.

I didn't actually mind any of this.  Because I really liked the restaurant, and I really liked the food, and the company and there was a nice atmosphere, and although the drinks were expensive, they are everywhere.

By the time my pizza came, it was so hot, I didn't know whether to eat it or use it as a sunbed.  Unfortunately, I'm not sure if the same can be said for the others.  But if they want to let their food go cold out of social politeness, that's up to them.

One of the things about crowded restaurants and long tables is that you can't always hear what other people are saying, but you can hear the odd word, so you just chip in when you can.  For some reason Pete had come dressed as Mr Sulu from the original Star Trek, and he seemed to be very interested in talking about different types of butter.  Apparently if you have too much of it, you can go numb.  Have you tried Lurpak spreadable I suggested, it's usually on offer from Tesco?  I've often eaten multiple slices of toast with that stuff on, and I've never had a numb face afterwards.  He didn't seem interested in my knowledge of supermarket deals and he just carried on talking.

Another conversation was about how dangerous it can be to get amateurs to rip strips of wax off your undercarriage.  After listening to that one, the chances of me getting wax removed from my delicate downstairs areas went up from a long shot 1000 to 1, to a mathematically almost non-existent 15 billion to one.  I'll keep the hair thanks.  As far as I know, no-one ever ended up in A&E just from having hair, so I'd like to keep it that way.

Despite the expensive drinks, and the huge variety of apologies I got in an Italian accent, the restaurant was actually really good, and I would definitely go there again.  The only down side was that I felt a bit crappy as I'd had head and neck ache all afternoon.  The good news is after dosing up on painkillers, and putting a heat pack on my neck I feel a lot better this morning.  But aches and pains are just part of getting old I suppose.

The good news is that unlike last time I went out for a meal with the same young people, I haven't been fired this week.  So there may well be more birthday meals to come.